As I was digging through TDZ archives I found a video I posted of Dancing In the Minefield’s by Andrew Peterson. The imagery of dancing in a minefield triggered something else in my chaotic ADHD brain — one of the relationship options on Facebook is “It’s complicated.” I don’t profess to be a relationship expert, but after 16 and 1/2 years of marriage I’ve learned that marriage is complicated. It isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes it is rough because of internal conflict. Sometimes it is rough because life has thrown yet another curve ball.
It is also about having that one person whom you know will be there no matter what. That one person who sees the worst in you but somehow still loves you. That one person who makes you feel safe even in the worst storm. That one person who can make you laugh on the worst day. While I haven’t enjoyed the storms or dodging the mines, they have made me appreciate times of calm and laughter. While storms are a part of life. So is the joy of just spending time with each other doing the simple things.
I was nineteen, you were twenty-one
The year we got engaged
Everyone said we were much too young
But we did it anywayWe bought our rings for forty each
From a pawn shop down the road
We said our vows and took the leap
Now fifteen years agoWe went dancing in the minefields
We went sailing in the storm
And it was harder than we dreamed
But I believe that’s what the promise is for“I do” are the two most famous last words
The beginning of the end
But to lose your life for another I’ve heard
Is a good place to begin‘Cause the only way to find your life
Is to lay your own life down
And I believe it’s an easy price
For the life that we have foundAnd we’re dancing in the minefields
We’re sailing in the storm
This is harder than we dreamed
But I believe that’s what the promise is forSo when I lose my way, find me
When I loose love’s chains, bind me
At the end of all my faith, till the end of all my days
When I forget my name, remind me‘Cause we bear the light of the Son of Man
So there’s nothing left to fear
So I’ll walk with you in the shadowlands
Till the shadows disappear‘Cause he promised not to leave us
And his promises are true
So in the face of all this chaos, baby,
I can dance with you